So... I got Zachy's new job chart/responsibility-motivator ready. It needs some tweaking, but here's what I did.
First I took some photographs that represent each of the jobs he needs to do in the morning before school, and also the things he needs to do to be ready for bed. I added captions and printed them out on magnet paper. Each morning and evening he marks off the jobs he finished by covering them with one of those circle magnets. (Those are making marks on the pictures, though, so I'm going to put them on a magnetic chalkboard and let him draw Xs next to them.)
We have a jar for him (the green one), and if he finishes his whole list in time for school or bed, he gets five beans to toss in his jar. (Thanks a million for the idea, Raesha!) None unless he does ALL the things on his list. He is also rewarded with a couple of beans if we catch him doing something particularly responsible, like coming as soon as he's called, helping with laundry, or cleaning up his own mess without being asked.
He can trade the beans in for trips to the science center, zoo, magic house, etc... or sleepovers, a handmade toy, baking cookies... everything has different bean values, so he can decide what he wants to save for. I'm trying to make most of the rewards be priveleges rather than stuff.
I love that he is not only learning good habits, but learning to be responsible for himself. It's also a great addition/subtraction lesson, and a first experience in earning, spending, budgeting, and saving... and it doesn't cost a dime.
So far he really likes it, and I love that he'll race from room to room at night cleaning up his things, then say, "Let's go see what's next!" Let's pray that it stands the test of time... or at least enough time for him to learn a bit of independence and responsibility. Go, Zach.